Home ownership is NOT real estate investing. You’ve been sold a lie.

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Ready to hear something that will blow your mind? You’ve been sold a lie! A lie about home-ownership. Home ownership is NOT what people mean when they’re talking about investing in a home. 


To be fair, who did you hear this advice from?
The real estate agent?
The bank manager who approved your mortgage? 

I’m sure those are all well-meaning, and probably successful people. But are they what comes to mind when you think “successful investor?” NO WAY!!! 


A lot of people carry huge mortgages. Most of that mortgage debt is on their primary home. But is it worth it? Let’s have a look. 

Wait. Is he telling me home ownership is bad?

I’ll start by saying I own my home, so in no way would I tell you that homes suck. (Actually, I own several homes. But that’s a separate story.) 

There are all sorts of good reasons to buy a house now – especially if you have kids – that have nothing to do with finances. (Although there’s a pretty awesome calculator that helps know the financial impacts) 

All I want to say is don’t assume that home-ownership is the pinnacle of financial success. It’s not. 

The first home I ever bought was an investment

I bought an investment property while I was still renting. The numbers were just too good. Everyone told me I was crazy. Everyone was dumbstruck that I was still renting a crappy apartment when I could afford to buy.

But whatever. The apartment was fine and that rental property is still a goldmine.

Also read:
How to save for a house. Just in case you want one after reading the article

A tale of two relatives. 

The apartment-renting uncle

I have an uncle in his sixties who rents a one-bedroom apartment. (He’s widowed, so that’s kinda sad, but I think he’s okay now.) He works part-time, pursues random hobbies, and travels five times a year. (Pre-covid, anyway) … He’s basically a poor version of who I aspire to be.

He’s a few years from retirement, and he’s researching which country he might expat to. Even with a part-time job, he has enough income and enough in savings to maintain his lax lifestyle. Total freedom. 

The home-owning cousin

At the same time, I have a cousin who’s in his thirties and currently single. He bought a house because it seemed like the right thing to do at his age. He has some hobbies but spends a significant amount of time doing this like cleaning his gutters and complaining about his neighbors who don’t clean theirs. 

He has this huge house with a backyard, a basement, and a few guest rooms, but realistically he doesn’t use any more space than my renting uncle. He’s also always making additional payments to pay his mortgage off faster, and don’t even get me started on that. 

Before buying this place my cousin had a sweet apartment that was weirdly cheap and allowed him to walk to work. But someone planted a seed in his head that he should be at the home-ownership stage now, so that was that. 


Again, I’m not here to tell you where to live. I just don’t want you to feel like you’re some sort of loser if you prefer to rent just because your high school math teacher with a desk full of whisky and regrets sold you the home-ownership myth. 

The home-ownership myth 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this advice:

“If you’re renting, you’re just throwing your money away.” 

~ Every well meaning grandparent ever

I even remember going through the calculations in high school math. Hmm. the payments for a mortgage and for some lousy apartment are almost the same – but at the end you get to keep the house. Sounds like a no-brainer! 

Except those payments are not almost the same! Home ownership comes with some serious additional costs! And when you work out the numbers, you’re not necessarily coming out ahead. 

This really hit me when I was adding up my living expenses for my taxes last year. Yes, my house is an upgrade from the 650 square foot apartment I was sharing with my wife a few years ago, but that upgrade had some hidden costs:

  • Insurance – didn’t have to pay that before
  • Property taxes – always a welcome surprise! 
  • Utilities – definitely cost more in a bigger place
  • HOA fees – (getting my lawn mowed doesn’t come for free)

All those additional fees are transient, they don’t contribute to my principal or the value of my home, and they add up to what I was paying in rent. So there goes the argument that at least your payments are going for something you own in the end. 

Plus there’s also:

  • Maintenance – painting chipped walls, repairing leaks, replacing the washer and dryer… sheesh!
  • Big maintenance – new roof, new driveway, new walls…

It adds up! And you better have an emergency account for those! 

Then again… 

Debt is good



Readers here know that I am a big believer that a leveraged mortgage is the secret reason investing in real estate is amazing

So what gives? Having a mortgage is good? Owning a house is bad? What’s this guy talking about?! 

So is a home an investment or not? 

Well, it comes down to this question… 

Does it bring you money?

In my area, the smallest and cheapest house I could find sells for $650,000, but it’s a townhouse so I’d have to pay HOA fees on top of all the additional expenses. (A small detached house goes for at least $900K) 

Or I could rent the same house for $2400/month which includes HOA fees, insurance and taxes. (I won’t count utilities and maintenance for simplicity.) 

So if I were to buy it, that’s:

  • $130,000 down payment,
  • $2200/month in mortgage payments. (At 2% interest over 25 years) 
  • $700/month (at least) for HOA fees, insurance, and taxes

So by buying, you’re paying $2900/month but in the end you get to keep that $650,000 property! 

If you’re renting, you’re paying $2400/month. You’re saving $500 in comparison, but you don’t own anything. 

But wait! What if I were to take that monthly $500 I’m saving and invest it in the stock market? After 25 years at 10% growth (which is the historic average), I would have $664,000. Hmm. 

And if I were to invest that $130,000 down payment too along with the $500/month?

$2.23 Million dollars!!!!

From SmartAsset

(By the way, the numbers seem relatively equivalent right now because the rates are SO LOW. But when rates go up to say, 4% – which is still considered low, those monthly mortgage payments will go up to $2700 and the difference will be even more stark.) 

What about appreciation though? 

So the real argument about your house being such a great investment is the appreciation. 

It goes up in value like crazy! You know that crummy $650,000 house I was talking about earlier? That’s my house! And I bought it for only $325,000 seven years ago! 

Hoorah! Over 10%/year in returns! What a genius! Best investment ever? 

But really… How are you going to get that money? Sell your house? Then what? Buy another house? That house also appreciated at over 10%/year. So has everything within a 4-hour drive from here. 

If we wanted to move out, there’s no way we’d find anything for under $900K for a pretty average home. It wouldn’t exactly be a “savvy move”.

So unless you’re prepared to move somewhere far far far away, or drastically change your way of life – you can’t exactly capitalize on that investment. 

(Meaning, if that $650K house keeps inflating at 10%, which is not very likely, after 25 years my humble home will be worth $1.685M. And if its value rises with inflation at about 3%, its value will be $874K… And I dare not think what the HOA fees will be by then!) 

And speaking of inflation… 

There’s also lifestyle inflation 

See all those numbers I just mentioned? Throw them out the window! Because when most people are buying a home, they’re buying a dream. And they OVERSPEND! 

Basically, most of us get way more than we need just because it’s there! 


I mentioned I could rent my home for $2400/month, but realistically I could have skipped all that and just rented a 2-bedroom apartment for $1600 – utilities included! 

People often spend 40% more when they buy a house than when they rent! 40%! That’s insane! You bet your butt I could put that extra $800/mo to good use! 

And just for fun, let’s look at the numbers. 

If I were to resist all lifestyle inflation and invest that $800/month with no initial money down – I’d have over $1M at the end of 25 years!

So what do you get by owning? 

Well, we just covered that appreciation is kind of a wash. 

And we just covered that you’re basically spending as much on extra costs on top of your mortgage as you did in rent.

And while I guess you could technically think of it as “investing”, I hope you’re not looking at your home as the only wealth-building strategy. 

So what do you get?

I view it as fixing your living expenses. 

If values were to rise drastically, your “transient fees” (taxes, insurance, etc.) hopefully won’t increase too much like they could with rent. (Just look at New York and California.)

That can be comforting enough to make the move to home ownership.

And what do you lose? 

Mr. First-world-problems over here, but I associate my home as kind of a hassle. 

  • Every leaky faucet or chip on the wall – that’s a to-do list for my weekend. 
  • In 2019 we took on some long-term traveling, but my mortgage payments were more than I spent travellling! Those payments don’t go away when you go away. 
  • Tried to find a short-term renter when you’re gone – that’s a hassle too! 

And the worst part is the risk. If you enter some financial difficulties, you still have to make those payments. Or else they take that house away. 

Remember my uncle from earlier? As soon as he has a change of heart, he can just give two-months notice, leave all his worldly possessions at the curb, and take off. 

#lifegoals #livingthedream

So what’s the solution? 

How do you get the best of both worlds? How do you lock in your living expenses while also having renter’s freedom while also minimizing your payments? 

Own a REAL investment property. Remember the test for knowing if it’s a good investment… Does it bring you money? 

Nothing brings money like being a landlord. 

You can do as I did and just keep renting while owning a rental. Or at least own a home but rent out your basement or house hack. You get to own the home, can expense the heck out of it – since it’s mostly an investment, and pay very little in “fixed fees” if you split it up properly. 

Bonus points: if you travel, your house is still being paid for!

Maybe it sounds easier said than done, but then you’ll get to righteously say “My home is the best investment I’ve ever made.” 

TL;DR – home ownership is not the best investment in the world

  • Myth: Renting is like throwing money away. People forget about all the extra fees (like taxes and repairs)
  • Myth: Your home’s appreciation is an investment success. Where are you going to move?
  • If you spend less on your living expenses by renting and invest the difference, you could come out on top.
  • Better yet, get the best of both worlds by being a home-owner but renting out a chunk of your home or just owning a rental.

And I’d love to hear from you in the comments. Have you fallen for the home-ownership myth, and what do you think of that advice now? 

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4 thoughts on “Home ownership is NOT real estate investing. You’ve been sold a lie.”

    • True, I think most people in general own their homes 🙂 Once you pass some income threshold anyways. I’m also HEAVILY pro-real estate investing but personal homes are dubious to me.

      Forced monthly payments ARE a good path to wealth for much of the population (readers of this blog are not normal though). That money could better allocated though.
      I think people strongly overestimate how much they make on their house vs a simple index investment and underestimate how much they spend in property tax + others + time spent maintaining it.

      You can get appreciation on stocks just like houses. But also, increased freedom from non-home ownership. I had a job offer floated at me this week for which I would have to move countries. The biggest thing holding me back really is needing to sell my house (also I signed a possibly binding contract at my workplace :O ).

  1. I enjoy your writing style. It was while I was in college that I managed to break free from the myth of ‘renting is throwing away your money’. More than a decade later I am a happy homeowner, but it is almost entirely a lifestyle choice, not an investment decision. I am at a job I don’t intend to leave, my kids have space to run around in, and I am one that enjoys various remodeling projects (the home was a somewhat rundown foreclosure).
    My small town is full of newly built homes that are selling for something like 6-7x the median wage of my county. They sell like hot cakes. I think everyone is nuts, and has totally drunk the kool-aid of ‘your home is your best investment’ and so they buy the biggest one they can convince the bank to go along with. I sure hope for all of my friends/neighbors sakes we don’t have a housing downturn like ‘08. If we do, they are in for a world of hurt if they ever need to sell. Modest housing has become rather old-fashioned.

    • Funny, where I live it’s almost impossible now to find a normal-sized home, and new builds start at $1M. It’s totally insane!!!
      Oh, and I’m not dreading another housing downturn. I’ll be busy buying cheap long-distance rentals. Mwahahaha.
      (Just kidding, I don’t want anyone to be stuck in a crappy situation because they made some wrong moves. Bring your neighbors to this site and I’ll teach them to not make bad decisions with their money.)


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